You look happy, but you don’t feel happy.


What is depression actually?

Depression is a serious mental disorder that can prolong if left untreated. It is categorized as a mood disorder. Anything that intervenes with the normal functioning of mood. It can be described as the feeling of sadness, loss, fear, anger, frustration that affects the person’s day to day activities. Following frequent negative thoughts result in one suffering from such illness. It isn’t all about having in the head, it has vast effects on the body, soul, and mind.

Society might categorize people with such illnesses as “attention-seekers” primarily because of the lack of awareness about the seriousness of this issue. Hence People usually develop a sense of low self-esteem. Loss of productivity and poor functioning through the day. e. Here are some essential factors to look upon if anyone near you is suffering from a depressive episode.

Common symptoms:

It’s not necessary that depression will only affect your mood or mental health. Mental health is correlated with our physical health. Your mind is the hub for your thought process that will consequently affect your physical body. For example, you might notice the days you are lazy you constantly feel down, negative,and bad about your body. However, t depends from person to person for displaying symptoms. Here are some common symptoms of depression:

1. Chest pains:

If someone feels a strange vibration or pain in their chest, left arm, or half body. It is important to get it checked immediately. A lot of physical symptoms of depression are linked with higher anxiety. If one feels anxious throughout the day there are chances they might have mild to moderate depressive symptoms.

2. Loss of appetite:

People usually feel full and don’t feel the urge to eat even if the last meal they took was a day ago. They feel nauseous most of the time. And a general hate for food and eating develops. It’s a common indicator to detect if someone is dealing with depression. Stomach aches, digestive problems are correlated with it. 60% of the people with irritable bowl syndrome have mental illnesses like anxiety.

3. Frequent headaches

People suffer from constant strain in muscles of the neck and back because of the excessive over-thinking and stress. Physicians have said that lower neck pain is the consequence of tension, stress, and anxiety. The more a person stresses the greater the body feels stiff and strained.

4. No motivation or Sleepless nights:

While dealing with depression, people cannot really feel motivated through the day, they take days off, and sometimes getting up from the bed is the hardest task for them. Likewise, they can’t really express easily what is actually making them down. Tiredness, fatigue, no motivation are the common companion during the day. When night comes, they are not able to sleep. they shift places and sides but are not able to sleep. Yet this is not always the case. Sometimes people n sleep excessively so that their mind does not wander and they have a hold on their thoughts.

5. Difficulty in concentrating and focusing

When dealing with depression, difficulty while concentrating and focusing is common. People don’t reply to conversations. Leave their meetings delayed. Even during work most of the time they are not mentally present. They lose focus in between and end up crying or being irritated. Their cognitive abilities of thinking and talking gets slowed down. For children they might go through low grades, poor academic performance or shift in their areas of interests.

6. Excessive mood shifts:

You can see one suffering with depression having frequent mood shifts. From being happy one day to not wanting to talk the other day. It isn’t just a feeling it’s a continuous thought distortion that results in falling under continuous loops of negativity, self-doubt, and shame. Having low moods, high irritability, frequent burnouts, less willingness to meet people are all common symptoms of depression.

Myths about depression

1. Depression isn’t in one’s control.

People generally call out someone suffering it, “To change their mindsets” But a person dealing with depression requires a proper therapy, counseling.

2. “Depression is caused by trauma”

This is not true. Depression can be caused by anything at any time. Sometimes a loss of a job, inability to do something, rejections, and fears can result in depression. What matters is that there’s a proper treatment for it.

3. “Depression can only be treated with anti-depressants”

This isn’t true. The intensity and degree of depression vary from person to person. Some might recover after taking sessions and therapies, while for others anti-depressants might work. Some might get out of it by changing routines environment while for others they might have to take proper treatments for it.

4. Genetically transmitted?

Previously the psychologists used to say that if there’s a long history of depression in your family there are higher chances you might get it. But it isn’t always necessary. Depression can be caused by any unexpected triggering incident. Yet saying it is completely genetic is wrong. In most cases, parents/ family never had depression or symptoms of any mental disorder but the child had to go through the failure, loss of a loved one, rejection, and isolation all in one go, then there will be higher chances that he gets depression.

5. Once you take anti-depressants you’ll have to take it forever?

No, it’s not always necessary, most psychiatrists and psychologists prescribe medication along with therapy. Once you show positive results there are chances they shift you to therapy only.

6. Men don’t get depression.

This is the biggest myth of all. Usually, our societies have portrayed MEN AS SYMBOL OF STRENGTH and showing any emotional or mental outcasts as a sign of weakness. Let’s not forget, it’s men who take along the whole family, and definitely, they have more pressures from society, their family, and surroundings. So depression isn’t bound to any gender. Anyone can get this!


Talking openly about how you feel isn’t shame. It will only help the sufferers to find ways to keep themselves on track. And remember if you see someone in your friends and surroundings drastically changing behavior, showing signs of hopelessness, recklessness, mood swings, and sudden personality shift. Don’t forget to ask them: How they are doing and in what ways you can help them.


Waleed Iftikhar · January 13, 2021 at 13:32

Depression is real, thank you for writing a beautiful article to show awareness.

Moiza Zahid · January 13, 2021 at 13:39

Informative and precise with good selection of words!

    Hina Rizwan · January 16, 2021 at 15:24


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